These Are The Real Reasons Your Long-Term Boyfriend Hasn’t Proposed Yet

Or he is person who prefers to live alone. OK, you seem to be ‘stuck’ as a couple. And he is happy in a state of perpetual dating rather than actually building a life together or even moving in together. I meet a guy and after 1.5 years I get a ring and BAM things start going horribly wrong and BOOM we’re headed for divorce court!

He had a failed marriage that had ended 17 years ago and he was afraid of messing up and it not working. But honestly, I’m glad I waited around because we are very much in love and the marriage has been wonderful. Maybe he doesn’t want to get married right now, but as another poster said, he wants you off the market. MIchelle- LBH’s comment was completely unrelated to your post. Anna is waiting to hear about her own living situation.

It became a sensitive topic, and there were tears shed over the “when” question. I came to a realization that if I wanted something, I needed to take it in my own hands. I realized that every moment I spent with my partner before a proposal should be a moment of active decision- I would only be with him because I wanted to be. When I shifted the problem from him to me I realized that it was my decision to stay with him for all these years, so I could not be mad at him for us being together for 8 years and not being engaged yet.

I think this hits it right on the head. This guy clearly has the ability to come up with large sums of money (drum kits aren’t cheap). Right now, getting married isn’t a priority. I agree that you need to call off the engagement ASAP and find someone who will make it a priority, if that’s what you want. Don’t we always say that if a guy wants to be your boyfriend he’ll act like it?

In this case, he does not get a choice, it is your choice. Don’t mention it any more unless he brings it up. It’s up to him to deliver, and it is always up to you to stay or go. If you end up leaving, don’t pin the blame on him, as it is always your decision to continue the relationship. I love him but i always knew one day i wanted to get married and i am hurting.

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2) The people who are willing to live together without marriage first tend to have cultural and/or religious values that make them more open to divorce. Couples who don’t cohabitate before marriage are more likely to XDating have cultural/religious values that frown on divorce so they are less likely to divorce. I personally would rather live with someone first and see how it goes in the first 6 months…perhaps he feels this way too.

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Actually if Marriage is not a similar goal then most likely there are other things you guys do not share in common. To me, an engagement is real if the couple is getting married. But its the actions of the couple that make it real. The guys I know want to be financially set/have their ducks in a row before committing to marriage.

Once a couple does decide to get married, though, it tends to lead to higher rates of satisfaction than just living together. The Pew Research Center’s 2019 study found that 80% of married adults said they feel closer to their spouse or partner than to any other adult, compared to just 55% of cohabitators. By the three-month mark, both you and your partner should feel comfortable being yourselves around each other, according to Samantha Daniels, dating expert and founder of Samantha’s Table Matchmaking.

Many of us are looking for a companion or a friend or even a no-strings-attached lover. Antidepressant drug side effects can also be tied to the dose prescribed. Sometimes simply lowering the dose will still treat depression without blocking sexual desire. The FDA has approved these medications to treat sexual problems in men.

He refuses to talk about marriage or changes the topic

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You would know better than we would if he is capable of that and I can certainly understand you wanting to end things if that is the case. I understand that you like the idea of being engaged and then marrying… But, don’t you think the commitment is there already? If what you need is to feel that commitment more often because he lacks showing it with other gestures, sit with him and talk about it.

What’s the point of tackling lifestyle choices if someone doesn’t even want to marry you in the first place? The money issue is a convenient distraction from the fact that he isn’t at all invested in the relationship or interested in marriage. And, I guess what katie and RR in this specific case is the “right” answer. Since the “figure shit out before getting engaged” ship has already sailed, they need to figure out if they both still want to get married and then work HARD on compromising on all of their issues.

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He is really good to me and we get along outside of this issue. We have fun together, laugh, and he’s always doing nice, thoughtful things for me, like fixing things in my house and buying me little presents. But, I’m starting to become disenchanted with the relationship because I don’t want to be his girlfriend forever. Commitment is action and words, not paper and jewelry. I got married at 26 and I feel like I was too young. My then wife cheated on me not 6 months into the marriage.

Then tell him that you will leave at that time if you two are not at least engaged. This guy could love the OP more than any man has ever loved any woman…and it wouldn’t matter if she requires marriage and he isn’t willing to give it. It’s all about boundaries and limits that people need to draw for themselves. I guess a part of me just needs our society’s idea of marriage/commitment to validate my relationship. Obviously we are committed to each other, but I feel like something is missing.